I went to see a family friend last week and she joyously informed me that a mutual family friend had put to birth.  I was so overjoyed, because I know the person in question had been trying to conceive for a while. It also meant that the naming ceremony was around the corner and I was looking forward to the party jollof rice, or I so I thought.

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When I mentioned my thoughts to the family friend, she immediately hushed me and said, ‘No naming o. She gave birth through CS. I was like, ’Oh, okay. I understand’. But within me, I understood nada.  I was like-isn’t it the same thing?  Should one not have a naming or thanksgiving ceremony if she’s strong enough for it? Is it not a reason to also give thanks for safe delivery?  Does undergoing a CS mean the woman underwent a terrible thing and shouldn’t be celebrated? Is it a taboo for one to have a CS instead of a normal delivery? 

Trust me; I have encountered so many scenarios where the mention of a woman having a Cesarean Section is likened to the woman committing a taboo or a sacrilege. Any ceremony performed by the family is usually hush hush. She is looked upon with pity as if she had spent the family’s fortune or she underwent a very critical operation, that she was lucky to have come out from.

Ironically, most women nowadays are gladly opting for a CS even before the doctor asking.  I heard one reason is because some do not want to go through the pain of having a natural birth, while some say having a CS would not make your vagina walls slacken..Hmm….. What do I know, though?  I have never been pregnant and really cannot say which one I would opt for.  Time would tell. Have you experienced some of the afore mentioned reactions from friends or family members, if you gave birth via CS?

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  1. So true...I gave birth via cs and my husband still say I am not strong as those that gave birth via natural delivery

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